I tend to notice alternative ways of thinking about families, mainly because one political/religious group in our country has a monolopy on "family." They think they get to define and defend it. What bothers me most is some say their focus on the family is Christian-based, when really their notion of family comes from our culture or even capitalism. Since I'm currently reading The Suburban Christian by Al Hsu, a few sections regarding family jumped out at me.
The very layout of suburbia is driven by American individualism. Each family is to have its own home, yard, transportation etc. Hsu notes, "Inherent to American suburbia is an emphasis on the pursuit of individual homeownership rather than a communal or corporate vision of civic community" (39). He also includes a quote by Dolores Hayden, "Unlike every other affluent civilization, Americans have idealized the house and yard rather than the model neighborhood or the ideal town" (39). Capitalism perpetuates the single-family housing boom, as well. It is in the best interests of mortgage companies, Home Depots, developers, and other retailers to further the idea of one home for each family. No sharing here--that would hurt profits!
This idea of a single-family home is ingrained in our culture. It's expected of us; of course we can't live with our college buddies forever. Or heaven forbid with mom and dad! Owning your very own home is the ideal, the last thing along the continuum of living spaces, so in our culture it's a good thing. I think it's a good thing too, given that I hate throwing money away on rent. I've been wondering, though, about alternatives. Shane Claiborne has mentioned a neighborhood that got together and decided to share their stuff. They didn't have multiple lawn mowers and tools, etc. And Hsu brings up "sixplexes," a proposal by Christian futurist Tom Sine, where six families would live under one roof. They would share a larger kitchen, dining room, and living room.
In addition, Hsu mentions that the suburbs are not what we think: homogeneously white. Suburbs are in fact quite diverse, but since they are set up differently than cities, we tend to think they are full of middle-class whites. Suburbs were originally set up for mostly white people, after World War II, but now these communities are seeing a number of ethnic backgrounds. The set-up was also individualistic, single-family homes, but people from non-white ethnicities have transformed the uses of such homes. Multi-generational families live there, not just mom and dad with two kids.
Hsu points out that these families that may look different to us "demonstrate family values and identity not often seen in typical (white) American families, where relatives beyond the nuclear family rarely live under one roof" (43). He says that such families are similar to the descriptions of families in Scripture.
So it seems truly having family values involves more than making sure movies don't have sex scenes or curse words. It means more than focusing on "sanctity of marriage" or "sanctity of life." Espousing family values that correspond with the Gospel may mean practicing things that hit closer to home. Sure, it would be easy for me to parrot the talking points of James Dobson, but thinking about my living space in terms of economic justice and community is a different story!
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